It’s one thing to enjoy a mind-blowing orgasm on your own where you feel free to be yourself with no holding back and quite another to incorporate a sex toy with your partner.
Some people are open to the idea of accessories during sex and don’t feel that a sex toy is replacing them, but rather adding to the experience or keeping things spicy. But this isn’t the case for everyone. We all have reservations about things concerning our bodies or sexual habits and that is OK.
But what do you do if you really want to introduce a toy in the bedroom and your partner doesn’t seem into it?
First of all, be sensitive to the fact that these conversations can be hard and can make us all feel vulnerable — especially if we aren’t sure our partner is going to be game to try some new things. But this is where it starts — with a conversation. The person who wants to introduce the sex toys needs to be OK with talking about the reasons they want to use them.
Avoid having these talks right before or after sex, since emotions run very high for most during these times.
Those who want to enjoy sex toys and buy dildo Malaysia with their partner should feel they can be open and honest about that, but so should the partner who is being asked how they feel. If you aren’t OK with this new idea, no matter what the reason, you should feel comfortable enough to be honest and share with your partner why it might not be for you. By having this talk, you may come to a compromise, but you also may not. Remember that this is just one aspect of your sex life and to respect each other’s boundaries.
Don’t be pushy
If your partner isn’t into introducing sex toys, sex machines or things like blindfolds or bondage, don’t push them or try to change their mind unless they say they are open to it.
It is important to be positive and encourage your partner, telling them how wonderful they are. A good way to make them feel at ease would be to let them know they touched you in a certain place you loved and suggest trying lubes or vibrations in that same spot.